Intimacy coaching

For women ready to feel free in their bodies,
sexuality, and relationships. 

Intimacy
coaching

For women ready to feel free in their bodies,
sexuality, and relationships. 

intimacy and relationship coaching

Are you tired of feeling disconnected from your body, your desires and perhaps even your partner?

Do you find yourself stuck in your head and are you struggling to ignite any spark or pleasure? 

Discover how to reconnect with your body and awake your sexual energy, leaving behind negative imprints or past (sexual) trauma. Let me guide you on a journey to expand your pleasure and reclaim your joy. 

Are you ready to transform your intimacy?

If yes, schedule a free, no strings attached discovery call today. 

Who is Intimacy coaching for?

Are you experiencing a dip in libido and yearning to reignite your desire?
Do you find yourself unable to recall the last time you truly craved intimacy?

Know that this is very common in a long-term relationship.
Despite the initial spark in new relationships, the flame often fades over time, especially amid the hustle of a demanding job, the responsibilities of parenthood, and the chaos of everyday life.

Now, you avoid any kind of intimacy; you make sure you don’t go to bed at the same time, and you no longer want to kiss or hug for fear that your partner will get aroused, and you’ll have to say ‘no’ again, leaving your partner feeling disappointed and rejected. This pattern has persisted, leaving you burdened with guilt and anxiety about the future of your relationship. You may even question your own desirability and feel a sense of brokenness.
You long to reclaim your former self: confident, sensual, and empowered.

The good news is that it is possible to break free from the constraints of low libido and that you can rediscover the joy of intimacy.

When it comes to lovemaking, you find yourself trapped in your thoughts, unable to fully immerse in the moment of pleasure. This disconnect often turns intimacy into a chore, leaving you yearning for a more fulfilling experience. Growing up, sex was rarely discussed, leaving you without the tools to embrace pleasure shamelessly.

Yet, deep within, you sense a longing for uninhibited pleasure: a desire for sexual freedom. You crave the ability to talk openly about your desires and to engage in erotic play without guilt or shame. You yearn to fully indulge in the pleasures of intimacy and perhaps explore new horizons.
Imagine a life where intimacy is not just a box to tick on your to-do list but a source of genuine fulfilment and connection. It is possible.

Are you ready to embark on this empowering journey toward sexual freedom?

If you’re among the 25% of women who rarely or never reach climax, or part of the approximately 70% who don’t reach orgasm through penetration alone, sex can be frustrating and unsatisfying.

While you may derive pleasure from intimacy, it often feels like a race against time, with your partner reaching the finish line before you even hit your stride. As they lie in bed, fulfilled, and spent, you’re left yearning for more. Doubts creep in—Is there something wrong with me? Why can’t I reach orgasm?
Sometimes you self-pleasure, hoping to find the satisfaction that eludes you during penetrative sex with your partner, but even then, orgasm seems just out of reach. This can leave you feeling even more frustrated and isolated.

Together, we can explore techniques and strategies to enhance your pleasure and guide you on a journey toward orgasmic bliss.

Embark on a journey of self-discovery and intimacy through the ancient wisdom of Tao and Tantra, where sacred sexuality transcends physical stimulation to harness the flow of vital life force energy.

In Daoist and Tantra-based practices, delve into the profound connection between mind, body, and spirit, embracing your thoughts, emotions, and desires to deepen intimacy with yourself and your partner.

Picture yourself exploring sexuality as a transformative pathway, where every touch and sensation becomes an opportunity for connection and growth. As you learn to tap into your innate sexual energy, you’ll discover newfound levels of pleasure and fulfilment, enriching every facet of your life with vibrant energy and profound connection.

Experiencing discomfort during penetration can result from a variety of factors such as insufficient lubrication, childbirth, aging, or menopause, often leaving women avoiding intimacy.

As soon as he enters you, it hurts. Sometimes it starts ok but after a few minutes you notice the pain. Instead of expressing this, you often hope that he will orgasm as quickly as possible so that it is over, and the pain stops. Sometimes you even fake an orgasm because you know it will make him come faster. You feel broken and alone. You don’t want to tell him it hurts for fear of hurting his feelings. You tell yourself that it’s not so bad. After all, it’s only once a week (or less, if you manage to avoid it for longer). Besides, sex (and especially penetration) is part of a good relationship, right? Yet, you find yourself withdrawing from intimacy more often.

It is possible to overcome this! By addressing the root cause of your pain and communicating openly with your partner, you can rediscover the joy of intimacy.

Whether it stems from sexual assault, traumatic childbirth, severe stress, illness, or other impactful events, the aftermath of trauma can profoundly affect the relationship with your body and intimacy.

Feeling disconnected, numb, or overwhelmed is a common experience in such situations.
But there’s hope. Through tailored sessions incorporating Somatic Experiencing®, a renowned body-based trauma resolution modality, you can embark on a journey towards healing and reclaiming your sense of self.

With each session, you’ll learn valuable tools to navigate triggers, regulate your nervous system, and cultivate a greater sense of presence and aliveness. As you deepen your connection with your body and emotions, you’ll discover new pathways to experiencing pleasure and intimacy.

As women age and enter menopause, hormonal changes and physical transitions can impact their sexual health and desire for intimacy. Issues such as vaginal dryness, painful penetration, low libido, and emotional shifts can pose significant challenges to sexual satisfaction and connection with your partner. Additionally, societal norms and misconceptions around aging and sexuality may contribute to feelings of inadequacy or shame.

In our sessions, I offer a supportive and nonjudgmental space for women to explore these changes, understand their bodies, and learn effective strategies for enhancing intimacy and pleasure.
Together, we’ll embrace this new chapter of life with openness and excitement, reclaiming pleasure and intimacy as integral parts of your journey.

Book a free discovery call today and let’s discuss how I can help you navigate these challenges and rediscover fulfilment in your intimate life.

​​​Together, we can unlock a newfound sense of freedom in your body, sexuality, and sensuality.

How intimacy coaching can help you to reconnect to your body and pleasure

By the end of our journey together, you’ll feel deeply reconnected to your body, experience greater self-love and relaxation, and reignite your sexual energy. Join me and rediscover the vibrant, empowered version of yourself!

You will gain a deep understanding of:

Your own behaviour, including the thoughts, feelings, and beliefs driving it.
The barriers preventing you from feeling free in your body, sexuality, and relationships.
How to trust yourself, cultivating more self-love and self-compassion.

intimacy coaching

You will learn to:

Live in your body, not just your head.
Identify your needs and desires in the realm of intimacy and confidently ask for them.
Set boundaries in a crystal clear and respectful manner.

You will experience:

Increased excitement, pleasure and orgasmic bliss.
Greater relaxation, resilience, and joy.
Enhanced self-confidence, both in and outside the bedroom.

Are you ready for transformative, lasting change in your sexuality, your relationship with your body, and your intimate connections?

The elements intimacy coaching could encompass..

Exploration  

We delve into what’s happening in this present moment. How do you desire to feel? What thoughts, feelings, behaviours, blockages, and patterns hinder your freedom in your body, your sexuality, and your relationship?

Healing Past Experiences 

Acknowledging that past experiences can shape your present, we address any imprints from childhood, past relationships, or unresolved trauma. Using Somatic Experiencing®, we work to heal these past events, freeing you to move forward with a lighter heart and mind.

Crafting your desired life 

With a new sense of awareness and healing, you are empowered to create the intimate life you desire. Drawing from the latest Western (neuro) science and ancient Eastern wisdom like Dao and Tantra, you embark on a journey to rediscover joy and satisfaction in your sexuality. 

The ultimate outcome is a vibrant, passionate, and joyful intimate life, regardless of where you currently stand. 

Investment

Real, lasting change takes time and dedication, which is why I exclusively offer tailored packages rather than single sessions. Each package is custom crafted to address your unique desires and needs in the realms of intimacy and relationships. With a step-by-step approach, we embark on a transformative journey together, ensuring that you receive the comprehensive support and guidance needed to achieve meaningful and sustainable change.

A good start

5 sessions of 60-75 minutes per session.

Unlock a €50, – discount with a one-time payment.

• Duration: between 5 and 10 weeks.

Personalised exercises in between the sessions. 

• Including 21% VAT for private individuals. 

€ 800

Going Deeper

12 sessions of 60-75 minutes per session

Unlock a €75, – discount with a one-time payment.

Personalised exercises in between the sessions. 

Plus: WhatsApp support for urgent questions in between sessions.

• Including 21% VAT for private individuals. 

€ 1800

Intimacy Intensive

A private, bespoke retreat of half a day up to 5 days.

Immersive private retreat: Dive deep into key intimacy topics such as: Jade egg, great sex during menopause, from pain to pleasure etc.

• Including 21% VAT for private individuals. 

From € 800

Frequently asked questions

Intimacy coaching can help you if you feel disconnected from your body, if you don’t enjoy
having sex or even experience painful sex. Intimacy coaching can also help, if you lost your
libido or if you lost your pleasure, going trough menopause. Another reason women start
working with me is because they want to resolve sexual trauma or finally want to be able to
enjoy sex without guilt or shame.
Do you relate?

Intimacy coaching helps you to feel free in your sexuality, sensuality and relationships. If this
is what you desire, then intimacy coaching is for you.

No, absolutely not.

While we may discuss your sex life in detail if desired, these
conversations are always conducted fully clothed. There will never be any sexual activities
performed by either you or me during the sessions. Any sexual exercises will be assigned as
homework to be done in the privacy of your own home.

Both options work well, depending on your preference and ability to visit my office in
Amsterdam. I have successfully helped clients online from various locations, including
Sweden, Germany, England, Spain, Bali, and the USA. Whether in-person or online, you can
expect the same level of support and transformation.

I work in Dutch or English.

A session takes 60-75 minutes.

The number of sessions needed depends on your specific situation and desire.
We always start with 5 sessions.
Most women notice chance after 5 sessions and will get an idea of what is possible.

A 5-session package is €800, with a €50 discount if paid in full upfront.
In the Netherlands, these costs are not covered by the Dutch health insurance.
However, coverage may vary in other countries.

In support of the work you do in our sessions, we decide jointly at the end of each session
what steps to take or practices to do that best support your process. This is also a great way
to integrate our sessions.

The aim of this ‘’homework’’ is not to overwhelm you. The aim is to gently make sure that
your progress continues outside of our sessions resulting in maximum improvement.
I believe that small changes result in lasting transformations. However, I also belief that
without some discomfort, chance and growth will not happen. Again, this is something we
decide together.

In principle, we meet every week or every other week, depending on your specific situation
and preference.

No, unless we have previously worked together, and you want to come for a “refresher”
session.

For new clients, I only work with packages. This is a conscious choice. Real, lasting change
takes time and dedication. Each package is custom crafted to address your unique desires
and needs in the realms of intimacy and your relationship. With a step-by-step approach, we
embark on a transformative journey together, ensuring that you receive the comprehensive
support and guidance needed to achieve meaningful and sustainable change.

Tao and Tantra are spiritual paths that emphasize deepening connection, including within a
sexual context. Tantra encompasses all facets of life, including sexuality, while Tao focuses
on allowing sexual energy to flow freely throughout the body.

Both practices can enhance intimacy and facilitate ecstatic sensations during sexual experiences.
It’s worth noting that Tantra-based practices don’t have to be super spiritual.
They can also serve to enhance closeness and sexual satisfaction, without this aspect.
Especially jade egg practices as well as Breast massage can be extremely beneficial for
women wanting to awaken their full sexual potential.

For those interested in exploring these paths further, recommended readings include “The
Multi-Orgasmic women” by Mantak Chia and “Urban Tantra” by Barbara Carrellas”

Yes!
Everything discussed in the sessions is strictly confidential. I adhere to the guidelines of the
NOBCO and legal requirements to protect your privacy.

Feeling free in your sexuality, sensuality and relationships. Resolving sexual trauma or finally
being able to enjoy sex without guilt or shame.
Being able to enjoy sex again, including penetration if so desired. Experiencing orgasm etc.

I create a space where you can openly and without judgment explore and express your
wishes, needs, and desires.

Everything, including all your thoughts, feelings, emotions and sensations, is welcome in our
sessions.

I ensure there is plenty of space for humour and lightness in our sessions.
People of all ages, gender identities, sexual preferences, and cultural backgrounds are
welcome.

Choosing to work with me means benefiting from not only my extensive professional training
but also from my firsthand experience of navigating the complexities of intimacy, sexuality
and relationships.

I experienced and overcame years of painful sex after giving birth to my daughter, a loss of libido, and a struggle to experience any pleasure due to cancer and cluster headaches. I managed to overcome all this, but it took me years. Years that left me
feeling quite broken at times.

In my sessions, I use a wide range of practices and techniques, tailored to your individual
needs, ensuring that each session is unique and focused. My holistic approach integrates
the latest (neuro)scientific insights on sexuality with Eastern practices based on Tao and
Tantra. What sets me apart is my ability to apply this knowledge in a practical, no-nonsense
manner, grounded in real-world effectiveness.

That depends!
I am not qualified to diagnose or treat mental illness. In that case I advise you to seek help
from a trained psychologist, psychiatrist, or psychotherapist.

As an intimacy coach, I support women that are able to work on expanding their pleasure,
improve their sexlife or relationships or want to experience selflove and self confidence.
If you are not sure, please reach out and we can discuss.

– Sex, Love, and Relationship Coaching according to the VITA METHOD by Layla Martin.

Somatic Experiencing® at Somatic Experiencing International.

– The Developmental Model by The Couples Institute.

– Various courses by Esther Perel.

– Clinical Therapist Training IMAGO (IMAGO UK) – expected to complete this training early 2025.

– Somatic Attachment Certificate at Embodylab.com.

– Tao Tantric Arts by Minke de Vos and Shashi Solluna.

– Coaching training at Nonons.

– Mediator training at Merlijn.

– Various Qi Gong teacher trainings.

– Former corporate tax lawyer and mediator.

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